The biggest gap from where we are today to where we want to be is ourselves. We all have ideas of how to advance our lives but very few actually take steps to actually do something.
So what is it that gets in the our way and creates obstacles to achieve what we want? Mental barriers are barriers inside your mind which cause lack of success. They may take different forms and manifestations.
1. Feeling constant guilt
Guilt is provoked by thoughts that we have not lived up to our ideal self, moral imperatives and could have done otherwise. Guilt keeps one chained to the past, devours one from the inside out and distracts positivity.
Can this destructive feeling solve any of your problems? Not a single one.
Stop remorsing for the unfulfilled dreams, for breaking up with your partner or not taking life seriously enough. Live for tomorrow.
2. Negative thinking
With our thoughts, we shape our worlds. If there is optimism and positivity in our minds, it will be the same in everyday life.
Thoughts are things so the focus on negativity distracts us from the good things in life. If you are determined to fail from the start, what will you finally get?
We are our own greatest critics
Negative thoughts have a strong devastating impact on your life and imprison you in your own mind. To think positively, smile more, help someone in need, sing, read positive stories.
And bear in mind: noone is perfect, let yourself move forward.
3. Criticizing yourself
Some people go too far in an attempt to self-evaluate and inflate it into severe self-criticism. Obviously, we are our own greatest critics but one should escape this over poisonous self-beating as it is highly ruinous.
Most often self-criticism takes the form of endless tortures. As soon as one stops thinking positively (see point No2), they become the biggest pain in their own neck.
Try approving of yourself and see what happens, Louise Hay, an American motivational author advises, “I change my life when I change my thinking.”
4. Seeking approval from others
How often do you worry about what others think of you?
Generally, it is normal to desire the praise and approval from time to time. However, when it transforms into persistent thoughts consuming you every day, controlling your behavior and affecting your life, it has reached an unhealthy level.
Such behavior is known as attention-seeking. It threatens our self-confidence and kills initiative. Don’t base your self-confidence on the approval you get from others and learn to enjoy your own person instead.
Procrastination is a trap that many of us fall into
5. Delaying for tomorrow
“You may delay, but time will not, and lost time is never found again,” said Benjamin Franklin.
Procrastination is a trap that many of us fall into. We are all tempted with procrastination but this laid back approach distracts one from achieving success and reaching goals.
How does one avoid this trap?
Don’t let it become one of your habits. Be proactive and complete tasks from your to-do list every day. It helps to feel like you are on track.
Or at least start from the first part of your task. In most cases you will accomplish the whole task because the hardest part is the beginning.
Stay alert to those mental barriers; they are toxic!
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