How often do you read about twenty-something overachievers with thriving businesses and think that you are lagging behind?
How often do you doubt that it is too late to start over at 40 or 50 or 70, and even if it isn’t, you’re not sure what you want to do?
You are not alone. Pulitzer Prize winner Mary Schmich wrote in her now-famous essay, “The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives.” She then added, “Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.”
And it’s perfectly normal.
Learn From These Late Bloomers
Whether you are doubting your next career move, thinking about starting a family or considering a lifestyle change, it’s okay to be not entirely sure. Many of the happy and wildly successful people found their destiny later in life.
Barbra Streisand married James Brolin when she was 56, the couple have been together for 20 years now (and still counting). Grandma Moses, whose Bruegel-like Sugaring Off was sold for $1.2 million, had never painted before she turned 78.
Fauja Singh, arguably the most famous centenarian marathon runner and one of the torch bearers at 2012 Summer Olympics, only started competing in marathons at 89. And he still runs at 107.
You may write the next Harry Potter or start a new career even if you are not in your 20s anymore.
The important thing is, you shouldn’t give up too easily. Your biggest passion might be waiting round the corner, and you need to be ready for it.
What Should I Do In The Meantime?
Embrace the fact that having no grand purpose in life doesn’t make you a lesser person. Because it doesn’t, but it certainly makes you human.
So, instead of beating yourself up for no particular reason, relax and let life happen. Most of the times it will take you wherever you need to be, even if it’s halfway across the world from where you are now.
Do things you like to do and know how to do. Сooking the best fajitas in the neighbourhood won’t make you a celebrity chef, but it will earn you the love of the community, and research shows that is even more valuable.
Try. Do something new and exciting every day. Okay, not every day. Every week or every month or at least once or twice a year, in between family holidays and days at a boring office job. Volunteer, it’s a great way to learn something new while doing something useful.
Once you find your true calling, work hard, but rest every once in a while. It’ll help you gather your strength to conquer the world.
No one can tell you what you must do with your life. Take your time and figure it out for yourself. And remember: there’s usually more than one answer, and none of them are wrong.